Tuesday, 18 January 2011

New years 'dating' resolutions

After meeting all manner of unsuitable men last year, my New Year’s resolution was simple – to embark on a man-detox!

But just like my amazing attempt at a New Year’s resolution in 2010 (to give up wine… I lasted three days) my plan ran into a little problem when a super hot guy grabbed me just after midnight and started kissing me! Well, honestly, if you’d seen him (and if he’d grabbed you) you would have understood…

So after a marathon kissing session with said super hot guy and getting over the hangover from hell (hey, it’s not every day a London girl gets to welcome a new decade in Sydney) I decided to forget about the detox and instead try my luck at speed dating.

Now, I don’t have a great track record when it comes to speed dating. My first attempt was thwarted by my admittedly sky-high expectations. Under no circumstances should you go speed dating if you’ve recently been dumped, you’re pining for another man or you’re desperate to find The One.

Unfortunately, the first time I went speed dating, I had been suffering from all of the above. There had been a sheer lack of men in my life since I’d been dumped a few months previously and dating 15 men in one night sounded like the sort of challenge which would brighten up my love life.

Imagine my disappointment, then, when I turned up. I’d expected tall, dark and handsome; I got short, bald and boring. And I was left emotionally drained after not even stumbling across Mr Right-Now.

My second encounter wasn’t any better. I’d been dragged there kicking and screaming and before the dating had even commenced, a fellow dater accidentally spilled her entire martini on my dress. It didn’t dawn on me until afterwards that she may have actually been trying to cut out the competition. That’s how intense speed dating can be.

But I was determined to give speed dating another try – with an open mind. Oh it also helped that it was speed dating whilst wine tasting – ‘if in doubt drink wine’ I always say!!

As luck would have it, the first guy I “dated” was a pilot; things were looking good already. So after about 15 mini dates, some quite hot men, some quite geeky men and enough good wine to quell my nerves, I realised I was actually having fun.

And I realised that speed dating – in fact, all types of dating - in Sydney is somewhat different to London. Nobody has expectations. It’s more like going on a ride in Disneyland than a serious game of chess (that is, there are no winners or losers). And most importantly, the men are much hotter. Especially the pilot...with whom I exchanged numbers!

So what have we learnt here? New Year’s resolutions never last. Date detoxing is a great idea if you want to meet a hot man. And speed dating + Sydney equals lots of fun and possibly a date or two.

Happy New Year!

First published on: http://www.cosmopolitan.com.au/my_new_years_dating_resolution.htm


  1. My New Year's resolution: Slow down and more importantly, calm down. While out in Australia (SNAP!) I managed to stick to it like a trouper. My liver loved me for it and we even started talking again!

    However on Monday morning, my first day back in the London office, I wasn't even back in my suit for 6hours before I found myself in a bar with a man over my lunch break. I'm not sure how I do it but I've come to the conclusion; I am who I am and I do what I do. Why change it?

  2. I did 30 days no drinking in Jan. It was also on my bucket list. It was hard and annoying to do but it's done with now.

    Each Jan I tell myself that I'll be more on time for things. But that never happens. And I still get mad at myself when I'm running late. Maybe that's one I'll never conquer.

  3. Great post! I have tried a detox of men and never seem to work out too well ether! Some how they seem to 'pop' up when I am not expecting it!

    Next on my list is speed dating, if I can get my friend there that is, really what is so scary!? : )

  4. This review bodes well for me giving speed dating a try soon...and noted about the high expectations...I think that'll be the key...expect nothing and then I'll be surprised. Glad you got some good NYE making out though always a fan of that ;)

  5. Where are you?! Discovered you through your column in Company and love your previous posts. Hopefully more adventures soon...

  6. Good to read about a successful speed dating experience- my only encounter was pretty dire- bonus was the free cocktails though :)
    Let me know how the web dating revisiting goes- I am once again considering it after completely swearing it off.
    On the recycling front my friend recently woke up after a bit of a boozy one in a very recognisable flat- turned out she had dated his housemate/best mate for 4 months last year- London is too small some times.
    Betty B
    *Tales from the Morning After*



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